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The ladies of “The View” debate on whether parents should ask their kids if they are gay
So, as I sit here at the Burbank Airport, I’m surfing the net and found this interesting discussion by the ladies of The View about whether or not a parent, if they suspect their child is gay, should ask the child.
You had to figure Joy Behar would have a thing or two to say: I think there are certain questions you should ask your kinds like “Are you gay?”or “Are you going to put me in a home?” “I know people in the 20s and 30s and are gay … and the parent still doesn’t ask the question. … They don’t want it to be true.”
Said Whoopi Goldberg: “It seems to me that adults have to deal with this. they have tom figure out how they feel about gay people first and foremost. One of the reasons I think parents don’t approach this is because they might not know how to approach this… ”
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Daniel Lewis Frommherz says:
Greg, If a parent suspects that their child is Gay the last thing that they should do is simply come off half cocked and just blurt it out. They first need to do is simply educate themselves on just what being Gay is and then go from there. We really need to remember that children (sons and daughters) are still experimenting with their sexuality and may feel boxed in with that question considering how the parents have dealt with the whole LGBT issue outside of the nuclear family. Kids are not stupid we all know that or at least I hope this to be true. Leave it to the ladies on the view to be open about sexuality but most parents are not open and they really should realize that there is the possibility of a real relationship to be built on trust no matter how they view the situation. I recently asked my own brother how he and his wife would handle the subject if one of their three sons or a grandchild came to them with the news that he was Gay. There was total silence on his part not surprised as my brother is a dyed in the wool Right Wing Republican whom I doubt can think for himself even though I love him and that was that. I had hoped to create a dialog considering that I am the Gay brother and had to deal with parents who still don’t have anything nice to say to me but then that simply makes their day to bad for them is all that I can say.
Mark Kellam says:
As Whoopi said, the parents need to figure out how they feel about gays before blurting out the question to their child. I have a friend who suspected her son was gay for years. She even went secretly to some PFLAG meetings to better educate herself. She made sure to let her son know at every opportunity that gays/lesbians were OK with her. For the son, I think he felt too vulnerable to come out of the closet at a suburban high school in Dayton, Ohio. BUT, when he went away to college, the closet door was flung open, he already knew his mom was cool with him being gay and the transition within his family was seamless.