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Tammy Lynn Michaels to Melissa Etheridge: “Please stop telling the press [the split] was mutual”
With remarkable candor, Tammy Lynn Michaels has opened up about her break-up with Melissa Etheridge.
She does so not in an interview or in a new book, the former Popular star poured her feelings out in a poem she has posted on her blog Hollywood Farm Girl that reveals far more than Etheridge did during her recent appearances promoting her latest album.
The former couple share two children and Tammy’s hurt is quite raw.
Here are some excerpts:
things can be a long time coming
to one
and smash the hell out of
another:
hit and run
not even staying to clean up the mess
disappearances into the
hourglass-shaped wood with strings
never to finish a fight
never interested in clarifying,
making sense, making it right
even finishing the fight
more interested in making something rhyme
time after time after time
and later angsting that you and me, WE
it didn’t work out
you evolved
you needed to be happy-
but really… you withdrew your hands
from family and intimacy
to pluck those strings more
‘d rather hear 10,000 fans
screaming my name in worship
than hear my wife harp on me
about my family intimacy issues too,
you know?
which one is going to get me harder?
easy answer
sideswiped and left mangled
up to my eyes in toilet training toddlers
and sounds of a guitar wailing
letting me know
you would probably leave me soon
i know those heart-ache wails by now
i even told you it was a break up album
and you laughed at me
you laughed and laughed
i heard fearless and i got sick
“that’s your break up song with me”
i said to you
you got so angry with me, remember?
and stomped off
so thank you for telling an interviewer
that you WON’T censor me on my blog
(i thought i was to say nothing, my bad)
i was so unhappy thinking people dare look at me
and think that i consider
a marriage and forever to be
nine years or six years or whatever
and i gave up on everything
and just walked off
never is that me… nope, never
cuz i did not go anywhere, honey.
and you and i both know it
please stop telling the press it was mutual-
still love that damn woman so much, i’m still trying to stop. i had a dream last where honey and i were fighting and going to get a divorce, and i woke up sobbing…. then i realized. oh. it’s true. and then what do you do? when the horrible feeling in the dream gets to stay even after you wake up?
Comments
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Celeste Maxwell says:
Tammy- Leave it alone. Melissa would never slam you like that and let your private life stay private.
No one wants to hear it… I don’t
Sassifras says:
@Celeste, you don’t have to read it. She’s hurt, and things are being said about her and her relationship publicly, so she’s responding and expressing how she feels. If someone was using the media to say things regarding you that weren’t true, you would want to correct it. No one should begrudge her that.
Celeste says:
Sassifras -Reply–I understand your point. However- Where you there to even hear Melissa say this about Tammy? Honestly? Let me share my experience one time meeting Melissa;
One night right before a concert a group of my friends requested that Melissa sing the song “Sleep”. Melissa looked over at Tammy and then looked back at me and kindly said that would not be a good idea. That showed RESPECT and Mellisa’s caring heart – NOT to sing a song that would hurt Tammy, about someone else.
Even if Melissa did say the breakup was mutual
Melissa has to have peace as a survivor and her songs pour out and reach us when she bears her soul…. –Tammy is not loving or accepting her wife –I would run to my music and fans as well…
That’s Melissa’s therapy MUSIC–I am sure of it…It saves me… .
I hope Tammy finds some peace –and is kinder as they both are Mothers –and deserve to be healthy and happy…THAT SHOULD BE MUTUAL ALONE–and is a kinder word than I might have said..–Not a good frame of mind to take to the press—-I am shocked…
If people would just take the word “you” out of any negative discussion– there would never be a fight—It makes it really hard to fight taking the word “you” out of an arguement….
I can’t say I really know Melissa’s– but I know a lot about her dedication to people she works with — and her heart– I am sure everyone hears and feels—-
And I wish I would not have read this article—I just want to send Melissa a hug and hope that they all stay strong–find peace continue to Survive…enjoy each day in this gift of life.
Celeste says:
Sassifras -Reply–I understand your point. However- Where you there to even hear Melissa say this about Tammy? Honestly? Let me share my experience one of the few times meeting Melissa;
One night right before a concert a group of my friends requested that Melissa sing the song “Sleep”. Melissa looked over at Tammy and then looked back at me and kindly said that would not be a good idea. That showed RESPECT and Mellisa’s caring heart – NOT to sing a song that would hurt Tammy, about someone else.
Even if Melissa did say the breakup was mutual –sounds better to me to the public then being a victim that lost herself –blaming Melissa.
Melissa has to have peace as a survivor and her songs pour out and reach us when she bears her soul…. Maybe Melissa hurt more than she could ever express to Tammy…..
–Tammy is not loving or accepting her wife –I would run to my music and fans as well…
That’s Melissa’s therapy MUSIC–I am sure of it…It saves me..
If partners would just learn to take the word “you” out of any negative discussion– there would never be a fight—It makes it really hard to fight taking the word “you” out of any discussion…IT’S AM ATTACK WORD..fighting –in Tammy’s words –doesn’t belong in anyone’s home.. .
Home is supposed to be a place for destination.
— I wish I did not read this article…And it makes Tammy sound crazy.. —
Enjoy life–Hope this family can find some peace…:)