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Singer-songwriter Maria McKee comes out publicly: “My Queer story is complicated and far reaching”

A handsome blond friend once took me to see Maria McKee perform in concert at Coach House in Orange County. I was a last-minute replacement for a friend of his who flaked. I’ll never forget how wonderful she was that night.

I believe the year was 1989!

So how cool it is that all these years later, she has come out publicly. It’s never too late! The following is from her Instagram account:

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As I get to know more people in the community and we share coming out stories there is a degree of shame that comes up for me as a late bloomer. I have been called “a newbie” by some Queer friends which is baffling to me. Does that infer that this is some “choice” I have made later in life? My Queer story is complicated and far reaching. When I was a teen and I told my mother I thought I “like” liked a girl, I was not long after picked up from school by an older friend I looked up to and brought to a meeting where my mother was waiting with her prayer circle to cast demons of homosexuality from me. That same mother trained me to believe that my value as a woman was calibrated by my willingness and ability to be desired by powerful men. I sought men in relationships to feel safe and complete. I stayed faithful in a decades long hetero marriage because I am loyal and I adored my husband and still do. When I began to allow myself the freedom to see beyond that union and developed feelings for and relationships with women, it felt like I was truly loving for the first time. And at this time, masculinity holds very little desire for me. In keeping with the theme of being a late dyke, I am a day late with my #lesbiandayofvisibility post. I suppose because there is a part of me that feels like an interloper. A pansexual identified divorcée plunging headlong into the chapter marked “femme for femme”. But I will say this. If being Queer is about solidarity and community, stretching back beyond 25 years to canvassing the streets for AIDS charities, picking up the slack for friends dying alone when their families abandoned them, extending my family circle to my gay fans above all others and being Queer not being about who you fuck, then I have been and, and always will be, Queer as fuck

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2 Remarks

  1. Love her music!

  2. Sweet woman. Your music has always touched my soul. I think a person’s sexual identity is their own. I despise that we never judge what straight people do behind closed doors and speaking personally, the flavor isn’t always vanilla. I think who we love or are attracted to is not anyone’s choice but our own and by choice I mean who we are and not a choice in the regular world definition l. I don’t choose to be straight anymore than my friends and my family members choose to be gay-lesbian-queer…. I just think life is hard, it’s complicated and though I think the word “deserve” is arrogant and so many kinds of wrong, I DO think how we identify sexually is natural and should lead us to love, kinship and comfort with our people (no matter their identity), I’ve been through hell personally and it’s been those that accept me, no matter how I am, to be the people I go to when the world becomes too much.

    Keep your sweet soul where it’s happiest and love life.

    You, are a gift. Musically and in your actions. Stay true to you

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