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Sara Gilbert speaks out about the pressure on celebrities to come out – and not as bisexual

It’s been quite a week for celebrities coming out as bisexual.

Both Tom Daley and Maria Bello went public with the fact that they are in relationships with people of the same sex but did not label themselves as gay.

Sara Gilbert discussed these announcements with fellow panelists on The Talk and makes the point that people just don’t like or seem to believe someone can be bisexual.

‘There’s a pressure for people to label themselves as gay or straight. Whenever someone says they are bisexual – (Tom Daley) says he still fancies girls and in Maria Bello’s (New York Times) article, she’s talking about how she could still kind of like both it sounded like. People don’t like that and go, “Oh no, they’re probably one or the other.”‘

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6 Remarks

  1. We are not there yet, but soon announcing that one is gay will be similar to announcing one is six feet tall. Currently, when someone announces they are gay, especially D-list celebrities, I yawn.

  2. December 5th, 2013 at 1:22 pm
    Gaspar Marino says:

    Inherently everyone is bisexual, but biologically if you are able to have sexual relations with a member of the same sex your gay.
    I love and are attracted to women, but have no desire to have sex with them. I consider myself gay. Little Tom Daley, if what he says is true, fell in love at first sight with another man…let’s face it Tommy, you’re GAY

  3. I think it’s great that Sara Gilbert has pointed out the bi erasure that happens when people insist that someone must be gay or straight when someone comes out as being attracted to more than just one gender. I’ve been seeing it everywhere since their announcements, more so for Tom Daley than for Maria Bello, the insistence that because Tom Daley has a male partner with whom he is in love, he must therefore be gay, even though he’s ALSO attracted to women. In general, people tend erase the bisexuality of men more so than women, and there’s more pressure for men to identify as gay or straight rather than bisexual. But sexuality is a continuum and there’s more out there than just gay or straight, and Sara Gilbert clearly recognizes that. I just wish more people did!

  4. I think saying you’re bi is denying that you are gay. Just my opinion.

  5. If people don’t like it the idea of being bi, to bad! Sad for the people who just can’t understand that not everyone else has to be just like them.

  6. There are definitely truly bisexual people. But perhaps we’re too harsh on giving “free” passes to any guy that says he’s bi even though he is no such thing in reality. If we’re frank, we should know and admit that in our society being “bi” is often more acceptable than being gay to some groups. There is still, and will be for the foreseeable future, immense pressure directed towards MSM and as a result being “gay” is still a huge negative for many, many people. I hope this continues to change.

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