Christmastime may be a time for families to get together but there may be some family members who are feeling anything but holiday cheer.
There are plenty of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning youth who are suffering and that suffering could be a matter of life and death.
That’s why The Trevor Project, the leading organization providing crisis intervention and suicide prevention services in the US, is available 24-7 to let these youths know that they are not alone.
I recently spoke with The Trevor Project’s CEO Abbe Land about the help they offer and about what is at the core of so much of the suffering.
‘Family acceptance is so important,’ Land says. ‘Suicide is the third largest cause of death among young people. Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and questioning youth are three or four more times at risk and you come from a family that isn’t accepting, it increases your risk up to eight percent.’
‘Family acceptance is so important and I think what parents have to remember is this is your child,’ she adds. ‘This is your child, the person we love and you need to love them just the way they are.’
Land cautions that LGBTQ youth still struggle with self-acceptance even as there are some advancements in equality such as gay marriage in more US states and the end of the military’s Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell policy.
‘The tide is turning but the reality is it is still very hard for a young person,’ Land says. ‘We get so many calls from the South where there are still so many people who are not accepting. We get calls from California and New York as well. It is still hard for a lot of young people, there’s still a lot of non-acceptance of people feeling that you don’t belong.’
‘It’s so sad because we know you’re perfect just the way you are,’ Land adds. ‘It does send a great message to young folks that marriage equality is happening. There’s a lot of positive things there. But when you’re in school and your friend doesn’t want to talk to you anymore because you told him you were gay, that’s hard. So we’re here to help because the reality is that sooner or later, your friend might come along. But right now, we’re here to help you get through that.’
When The Trevor Project was founded in 1998, it was in contact with youth through its telephone hotline. Since then, online services have been introduced making it easier to have contact.
They currently offer Trevor Chat four nights a week.
‘By the spring we’re going to have it seven nights a week so matter what, a young person can talk to us,’ Land says. ‘And then we’re going to do Trevor Texts in the spring – you can just text away and somebody at Trevor’s going to answer your call. If you feel bad or just have a question. Reaching out is one of the bravest things you can do. It’s hard, it’s hard for everyone to say, ‘I need a little help’ but please do it because we’re there and once you do that, your future opens up.’
If you are a youth who is feeling alone, confused or in crisis, please call The Trevor Lifeline at 1-866-488-7386 for immediate help. You can also write Dear Trevor with any non-time sensitive questions.
If you do not reach a counselor in a timely manner, or receive an error message, please contact The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or the GLBT National Youth Talkline at 1-800-246-PRIDE (1-800-246-7743).
Editor’s Note: I will resume with fresh Morning Men on January 1, 2013. Meanwhile, I hope you are enjoying these encores of some of the delicious men I’ve dug up from the the archives! Today’s rerun, Hugh Jackman, is currently starring in Les Miserables and he is outstanding. I first featured him on the blog on April 22, 2009. Here is the original post:
I know what you’re thinking: How could Greg In Hollywood be up and running for nearly two months and Hugh Jackman not be a Morning Man until now?
Well, here’s the deal: today is my birthday (I’m 39 … again!) and I’ve been saving Hugh as a present. Hugh is not only the sexiest man alive (named by People Magazine so it’s official), but he’s probably the biggest star on the planet right now.
On Tuesday, Hugh became one of the rare stars to place their hand and footprints in the wet cement in front of Grauman’s Chinese Theatre in Hollywood.
Next weekend, his surefire blockbuster X-Men Orgins: Wolverine hits theaters and will make gobs and gobs of money (I’ve decided that I don’t use the word “gobs” enough).
So here’s this dude, big movie star action hero all buff and handsome. Then there’s that other side: the Tony winner Broadway star who can sing and dance like nobody’s business and who was the best Oscar host in many years.
Hey, even Hugh could not make the epic flop Australia a hit but I will say this: he sure made it worth watching!
Whether he’s shirtless, wearing a tuxedo or something in between, Hugh Jackman is hot!
I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and do my part to get your day off to a hunky start.
Here are a handful of sexy celebs in their Santa suits: Glee star Darrin Criss; Ryan Phillippe in a still from the film 54; Neil Patrick Harris; Jake Gyllenhaal in the film Jarhead and The Real World star turned fitness guru Scott Herman.
Ricky Martin is just about to wrap up a year-long run as the star of Broadway’s Evita and will begin s gig as a mentor on the Australian version of The Voice.
As great as his career is going, his twin sons remain his biggest priority:“Every decision I make and everything I do is based on their needs,” he told The Advocate this year. “I don’t want to sound cliché, but they teach me new things every day.”
He’s also pretty crazy about boyfriend Carlos Gonzalez Abella.
“I think he’s so sexy. He’s very smart. That is such a turn-on,” Martin says. “He leaves the house every day in a suit and tie and that is so sexy. It’s two different worlds—his and mine. I know as much about his world as he knows about my world, which makes it really cool.”
For the 26th year in a row, the great Darlene Love paid a visit to David Letterman during the holiday season to perform Christmas (Baby Please Come Home). This 2011 inductee into the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame is in her early 70s and still looking and sounding sensational.
US soccer star and Olympic gold medalist Megan Rapinoe decided that the time had come for her to be completely open about her sexuality.
So before competing in the Olympic Games in London, the 27-year-old midfielder on the US women’s soccer team came out publicly as a lesbian.
Rapinoe, winner of the 2012 Greggy for Sports Star of the Year, told me when we chatted last month that she has had no regrets.
‘I think it’s just nice to be open, there’s no more sort of omitting anything,’ she said. ‘It’s living my life as an open book which is really nice.’
Her decision to come out made her one of the less than two dozen openly gay athletes to compete in the Olympics.
‘I’d been thinking about it for about a year,’ she said. ‘It kind of got to the point in my life where it was, ‘Why am I not out?’ It’s an important thing. It’s important to me and I think it’s important in general. ‘I think my fans knew that I was gay and accepted me anyway and I think now it’s even been more of an embrace and more people have accepted me. I guess it’s just my rose colored glasses but I thought it was going to be positive.’
Rapinoe has been embraced by fans and by the LGBT community being featured in OUT Magazine and was honored at the LA Gay & Lesbian Center’s 41st Anniversary Gala in November.
‘I guess it puts into perspective what a big deal it really is,’ she said of that honor. ‘For me, it’s tough to contextualize what it means to everybody else but its such an honor to know that I’ve had an impact like this. It’s really amazing.’
Despite the increased attention, Rapinoe said her life has not really changed.
‘I think I live my life pretty openly, everybody in my life knew that I was gay so in that sense it’s not an Earth shaker,’ she says.
But she does find herself with a lot of new fans – including Greg In Hollywood!
Originally posted January 10, 2010
Fans of Pushing Daisies are still mourning the cancellation of that wonderful show after just two seasons. But its talented and handsome leading man, Lee Pace, is just getting started.
By the time he took on the role of Ned on Daisies, a pie maker with the power to bring dead people back to life, Lee had already made a major splash In 2003′s Soldier’s Girl in the role of Calpernia Addams, a transgender woman dating Army soldier Barry Winchell (Troy Garity) who was murdered because of his sexuality and his relationship with Addams.
“I didn’t come to the audition dressed in drag, I was just wearing a T-shirt and jeans,” Lee told me in 2008. “I knew how to connect and mean what I say. I don’t know how to play a drag queen.”
After he was cast, he told director Frank Pierson and he was having a difficult time finding his way into the drag queen element of the character: “Pierson just said, ‘Play the woman and the story will be clear. All I had to do was play the integrity of it, falling in love with someone else, getting away from her past. All I had to do was focus on is falling in love. After that, the make-up people will do their job.”
“I’m really proud of that film. When I broke it to my parents that I was playing Calpernia, my mom was like, ‘Oh, well, at least you’re not playing a killer.’ When I got cast in ‘Infamous,’ I was like, ‘Guess what mom.’”
In Infamous, Lee and Daniel Craig portrayed the two killers Truman Capote wrote about in his book In Cold Blood and the movie dramatized his research of the film. The movie had the misfortune of being released a year after a nearly identical film, Capote, won Phillip Seymour Hoffman and Oscar for his portrayal of the famed writer.
The film was shot before Craig was cast as the new James Bond but things were already in the works for him to become the next 007.
“We shot a sequence in Waco and I did this drive back with him and he was on the phone talking to someone about the Bond thing,” Lee remembered. “It was all coming together at that time. He was great to work with, he absolutely transformed himself.”
Lee was dazzling opposite Amy Adams in Miss Pettigrew Lives for a Day and has a nice scene with Colin Firth in the current release A Single Man and a role in the romantic comedy When In Rome .
Boy, how’d you like to find this guy in your Christmas stocking?
Harry Connick Jr. is one of my all-time crushes and has released two holiday albums. Here are some of his performances from them. I especially love the When My Heart Loves Christmas because the entire thing is a close-up of Mr. Connick and those lips.
How to Survive a Plague is superb film that gives us a front-row seat to the epic day-to-day battles that ultimately resulted in AIDS no longer being a death sentence.
It’s a film that I have not stopped thinking about since seeing it at Outfest over the summer and I’m so glad it is on the short list of documentaries that could nab an Academy Award nomination. It’s already been nominated for the Independent Spirit Award.
The more people who see this the better because they will learn that the drug treatments that became available in the mid-90s would not have happened if not for the work of AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power (ACT UP) – the group whose story is told in this film.
ACT UP may be best known for their headline-grabbing protests but its members were an extraordinarily resourceful group who elevated themselves with their own self-education. They interacted with scientists, researchers and regulators and eventually spun-off into the Treatment Action Group (TAG).
Thanks to the development of Protese Inhibitors (the film does an amazingly effective job of explaining the science behind the disease and the drugs without losing momentum) which became available in 1996, AIDS deaths in New York City declined by 50 percent that first year.
Since then, close to 8,000,000 lives have been saved by the drugs.
The film’s director, David France is a journalist who covered most of the events that take place in the film and lost his lover to the disease in 1992.
“For a long time, I’ve wanted to tell the story of how those dark days ended – the combined brilliance that worked together to tame a virus,” he told us at Outfest.
France went through 700 hours of footage for the film which was originally 13 hours long.
“It took us two days to watch it and we loved every bit,” he said. “We didn’t want to take any of it out. We told the stories of people whose lives were lived brilliantly. To take any of it out seemed like an act of cruelty. But we had to make the film digestible.”
I was at the Rite Aid the other day and bought a DVD of The Rookies for about 10 bucks! I’m a sucker for Michael Ontkean but I had forgotten how handsome and sexy Sam Melville was!
He portrayed Officer Mike Danko in four seasons on the ABC show and his wife, nurse Jill Danko, was played by future Charlie’s Angels star Kate Jackson! He and jackson later reunited on her later hit series Scarecrow and Mrs. King on which he had a recurring role as her ex-husband.
Sam, who was also best known for his role in the surfing film Big Wednesday, died far too young. He was just 52 when he died in 1989 of heart failure.
Just 10 days before the release of his very first solo album last summer, R&B and Hip Hop star Frank Ocean came out as a gay man.
It was far from a career killer.
The 25-year-old Ocean is now a six-time Grammy nominee, the album Change Orange is a big hit, and he has vowed with memorable performances this year at the MTV Video Music Awards and Saturday Night Live.
Ocean, previously famous for being a member of Odd Future, published a screenshot on July 4 of a text document on his tumblr that revealed his sexuality.
The document, titled ‘Thank You’, was written on a plane between New Orleans and Los Angeles, and was originally meant to be in the album notes for Channel Orange.
Ocean wrote: ‘4 summers ago, I met somebody. I was 19 years old. He was too. We spent that summer, and the summer after, together. Everyday almost, and on the days we were together, time would glide.
‘Most of the time I’d see him, and his smile. I’d hear his conversation and his silence…until it was time to sleep. Sleep I would often share with him. By the time I realized I was in love, it was malignant. It was hopeless.’
Ocean says when he looked back on his previous girlfriends and the love songs he used to play for them, the lyrics were ‘written in a language’ he did not yet speak.
At the end of the beautiful letter, he gives his thanks to the man he fell in love with, as well as all the other people who knew his story.
He says: ‘I don’t know what happens now, and that’s alrite. I don’t have any secrets I need kept anymore.’
Frank came out as a gay man over the summer and it is such a beautiful thing to see him thriving.
Below is his gorgeous performance from the VMAs where he did a serenely acoustic version of the song Thinkin Bout You from Channel Orange. *Greggys logo by Sharon Kaplan
It’s a bit like like being a kid in a very tasty candy store trying to decide which hot photos of Daniel Craig to post. One of him in his swimsuit emerging from the ocean – taken on the set of Casino Royale – is a no-brainer. For gay men, that’s like our version of Halle Berry in the Bond film she did with Pierce Brosnan. Or if you go back 30 years, like the iconic Farrah Fawcett poster or – going back to before I was born – like the image of Marilyn Monroe standing over that heating grate, her dress billowing up.
Sexy. Sexy. Sexy.
But besides those stunning blue eyes and killer body, this is one fine actor. He’s the best James Bond there’s ever been (sorry Sean Connery fans) and should have gotten an Oscar nomination for his performance as murderer Perry Smith in Infamous (the other Capote film).
A little-known film he made between Bond flicks was Flashbacks of a Fool, playing a washed-up actor. I think it went straight to DVD. So here’s a tip: in the first 10-15 minutes or so, he’s completely nude! But he’s also absent for chunks of the film because he’s played in flashbacks by a younger actor. Okay, there’s your tip. You can add it to your Netflix.