Out actor Andy Mientus shares “some sad scribblings from a very sad and confusing time in my life”
Some sad scribblings from a very sad and confusing time in my life, thankfully long since passed. This is what I used to think of Bisexuality. I don't blame this kid- when you never see something represented, other than as a punchline, you don't think of it as valid. When your straight friends roll their eyes at it and your gay friends roll their eyes it, you avert your eyes, at least. Luckily I fell in love with someone who didn't fit the narrative I had built for myself so undeniably that I had to confront it, make peace with it, and ultimately own it. For so long it seemed like something insurmountably complicated when in reality, it is so simple. It's freedom. In love, in sex, in gender- it's freedom from the binary. It's the greatest gift the universe has given me and it's one I am proud to share. I know a lot of people struggle with this the way I did and I can't give much advice- we all have our own situation. What I can offer is my example. I'm here, I'm out, and I fucking love myself for it. People doubt my identity every day, to my face and behind my back, but I don't mind. It's not theirs, it's mine, and no one can take it from me. If it's yours too, know that. Happy #BiWeek, brave souls.