Maria Bello reveals she is in a romantic relationship with a “charming, brilliant and funny” woman:
Maria Bello, so very good this year in the film Prisoners, came out publicly today in a column she wrote for The New York Times.
In the column, titled Coming Out As a Modern Family, Maria begins by sharing with readers how she came out to her 12-year-old son.
‘I had become involved with a woman who was my best friend, and, as it happens, a person who is like a godmother to my son.’
The two-time Golden Globe Award nominee for The Cooler and A History of Violence, Maria was also one of the stars of Coyote Ugly, was a cast member of ER throughout its fourth season and starred in a trio of short-lived TV series: Prime Suspect, Touch and Mr. & Mrs. Smith.
Before her current relationship with a woman named Clare, Maria writes that she had been involved with a ‘handful of men’ (including TV executive Dan McDermott who is the father of her son) and one woman.
She had a epiphany about Clare one day while sitting in her garden going through old photos and journals.
I came across a black-and-white (photo) of my best friend and me taken on New Year’s Eve. We looked so happy, I couldn’t help but smile. I remembered how we had met two years before; she was sitting in a bar wearing a fedora and speaking in her Zimbabwean accent.
We had an immediate connection but didn’t think of it as romantic or sexual. She was one of the most beautiful, charming, brilliant and funny people I had ever met, but it didn’t occur to me, until that soul-searching moment in my garden, that we could perhaps choose to love each other romantically. What had I been waiting for all of these years? She is the person I like being with the most, the one with whom I am most myself.
Maria decided to share the truth of our relationship with my large, Italian-Polish, “traditional” Philadelphia family: “My father’s response came between puffs of his cigar while we sat on the roof of a casino in Atlantic City. “She’s a good girl, good for you,” he said. My mother and family echoed his sentiments. Maybe they weren’t so traditional after all.”
When she later told her son she was romantic with Clare, she writes that he broke into a huge, warm smile and said: “Mom, love is love, whatever you are.”