In his 20s, Tom Goss was convinced he was asexual
Tom Goss has made a name for himself in recent years with his remake of Son of A Preacher Man and his own composition Breath and Sound.
But one of his songs – the bouncy tune Bears – tells the most about the openly gay singer.
Goss began the coming out process after he graduated from college and was training to become a priest in Catholic Seminary.
‘I was very late in understanding my sexuality,’the blue-eyed singer tells The Fight magazine.
‘I think a big part of me shut off any interest in intimacy after my parent’s divorce. It also didn’t help that I was attracted to bears.
‘I remember being in college and not really understanding where everyone’s sexual drive was coming from. I knew I wasn’t attracted to women but I also spent the majority of my time roughhousing with my wrestling teammates. We hung out together, practiced together and showered together.
‘These were 18–22 year old men, beautiful and with bodies to die for, I didn’t find them attractive either. As a result I just assumed I was asexual.’
It never occurred to Goss that he could direct his sexual energy to husky men. But a classmate in the seminary helped him sort this out in his mind.
‘It’s so outside the norm, I just never considered it,’ he said.
‘When I entered seminary I had a classmate that fit the mold. We became close friends and it was then that I realized that I was also physically attracted to him. Hooray! It was quite a sigh of relief, I wasn’t asexual at all, I just found bears attractive!’
Goss, 35, met husband Michael Briggs 11 years ago and they have been together ever since.
And yes, Briggs is a bear.