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Candis Cayne tells her story of how ‘It Got Better’ and reveals the cruelty of a high school teacher

I’m more impressed with Candis Cayne after watching her new It Got Better than I already was. Her resilience and her spirit are inspiring and her parents sound like the dream parents for an LGBT kid.

Candis, the transgender actress and regular on the reality series I Am Cait was living on the Hawaiian island of Maui and was being bullied by high school classmates.

‘I really was lost my freshman year of high school,’ she recalls. ‘I remember one time coming home on the bus and the kids were throwing gum at my hair and I was sitting there and I just wanted to get home and they were trying to cut my hair with scissors. And so I got off the bus (three miles from home) and I cried walking home. It just wasn’t bearable.’

To help ease the situation, her parents decided to send her to Los Angeles for her junior year in high school.

For about three months, it seemed like a dream come true. She was part of a dance troop, was in the school play and was looking forward to a U2 concert when it all changed in a day.

‘I get called into the office and they say, “You’re leaving tomorrow.”

‘ I was devastated and I went back to one of the teacher’s house where I was living and she looked at me and said, “You know you’re getting kicked out because you’re gay. And what you are is dirty and what you are is evil.”‘

At that point in her life, Candis had never uttered the words, ‘I’m gay’ so it all came as a total shock.

‘That was (a) big moment in my life where I saw first-hand the devastation of true homophobia,’ she says.

‘That time in my life is that time where you really feel like it can’t get better because there’s no way at that age to ever think that in three or four or five years you’re getting on a plane, moving where you want to be, and living your dream.’

For Candis that dream involved moving to New York City, getting work as a dancer and drag performer and coming to the realization that she is transgender.

‘I think the reason why I kind of got through it was my parents were there for me – they have always taught me to be who you are and always be true to yourself.’


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2 Remarks

  1. I just can’t help but wonder what would happen if she were out and about and had to use a public restroom? With all the current heated controversy going on, Target and all, where would she ‘go’ when nature calls??? When you’ve got to go, you’ve got to go, standing or sitting. With her looking like this, I think it’s only obvious where she should ‘go’, regardless of whether she has a penis or not. In a stall no one will see anyhow. If this were a woman to man transitioning individual, again the same consideration. If you don’t have a penis in your pants, obviously you’re not going to stand at a urinal so once again you’re in a stall behind closed doors. Piece of cake and no one to be offended.

  2. May 27th, 2016 at 6:10 pm
    K. Martinez says:

    Wonderful IGB video. I’ve always liked Candis Cayne and put her right up there with Laverne Cox as one of the best role models for trans people. So uplifting and inspiring. Just like Laverne Cox, Candis makes me proud to be part of the LGBT community.

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